I know it's the thought that counts, but was there really any thought involved by the 100-lb. person who just gave me a "gift" of a pound of Danish butter cookies?

Perhaps I just haven't been vocal enough regarding my struggles with my weight, body image, food journaling, and my efforts at the gym. These will be going straight to my husband's office.

When someone gives an overweight, dieting, fitness-focused friend a gift of butter cookies, it a nice gesture or a passive-aggressive one?